5 Common Relationship Red Flags You Don't Need To Put Up With

1. THEY GO RADIO SILENT FOR EXTENDED PERIODS OF TIME.

Sure, some people can’t text while they’re at work or don’t want to talk on the phone every night before bed, but dropping off the radar entirely is a bit concerning. I was seeing someone right out of college who would regularly be M.I.A. for entire weekends. This was disappointing for me, because he rarely left my mind. Every conversation we had was delightful and kind, but the inconsistency in our communication left me feeling lonely and confused.

2. THEY DON’T INTRODUCE YOU TO THEIR FRIENDS OR FAMILY.

You don’t need to meet mom and dad after the first date, of course, but don’t you want to date someone who is excited and proud to have you on their arm? If they’re hesitant or completely against bringing you around their loved ones, it’s important to figure out why. It’s a major red flag if they want to claim you, and your relationship, in private but not in public.

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3. THEY FLAKE ON PLANS.

Sure, last-minute work obligations or stomach bugs happen. However, if your significant other is repeatedly backing out of things, there might be something bigger going on. I vividly remember that painful feeling of disappointment when I realized that the Friday plans I had been looking forward to all week weren’t going to happen. I wish I could go back and hug that girl, but I can’t… so instead, I’ll virtually-hug you.

4. YOU’RE CONSTANTLY GIVING MORE THAN YOU’RE GETTING.

It is a beautiful thing to be so giddy and excited about a relationship that you give and give to make it work, but it’s even more beautiful when your significant other is doing the same. Take an honest look at your partnership, and see if they’re putting into it as much as you are. Would you drop everything if they needed help? Do you feel confident that they would do the same?

5. YOU SPEND A LOT OF TIME WONDERING WHERE YOU STAND WITH THEM.

Quite frankly, that is an exhausting way to live. You work day in and day out to impress professors, please bosses, and maintain friendships. You shouldn’t have to constantly be unsure of your romantic relationship, too. Find someone who inspires confidence, not second-guessing. Keep in mind that this is a two-way street. If you want a partner who doesn’t play games and is outspoken about how they feel, do the same for them.